My ideal partner...

It's Valentine's Day tomorrow. I wrote a blog on Valentine's Day last year, and it's still extremely relevant, as I'm sure it will be for the rest of my life. This year I thought I'd do something different.

Given that Valentine's Day is a day for romance and I will be spending it partner-less and alone, I thought it was worth taking a look at exactly what I might want from a partner: my ideal partner, as t'were.

I'm going to break it down into two basic categories: personality and appearance.

First off, I should say that my ideal partner, ideally, would be female. Not least because the concept of having breasts is much more attractive on a woman than it is on a man. 

So, personality-wise, what am I looking for?

I once said that my ideal girlfriend would be exactly like me, but could not remind me at all of me. In realistic terms I think that would mean they should be bright, but don't need to be extremely smart, they just need to be fairly wise to make up for my shortfall in this area. They shouldn't be arrogant or pretentious. They should be relatively confident within themselves, but they need necessarily need to be confident on the outside.

She would probably have to be reasonably innocent or naive, but should also be fierce and curious.

Funny seems to be the universal quality everyone is looking for. It strikes me that perhaps people don't realise how much funnier someone appears when we find them attractive. I suggest that the attraction, might often come before the funny, rather than after it. I'm not saying you'll be attracted to everyone you find funny, however.
After funny, it seems that the way someone looks is the chief principle. People often refer to eyes unaware perhaps that, broadly speaking, eyes are identical. It's what surrounds the eyes that is attractive or otherwise. I don't really take eyes into consideration, personally. Eyes are generally pretty. Bigger is better naturally, but that isn't actually the eye, it's the opening. I'm ambivalent about eye-colour. Deep brown is very attractive. Bright green is beautiful. I knew a girl once with quite astonishingly ice-blue eyes. But it doesn't even need to be a particularly defined colour. More pale colours are equally attractive, and often compliments the face a lot more. (The girl with the ice-blue eyes for example: her eyes completely dominated her face, the result was very pretty eyes, but not very pretty otherwise).

When it comes to looks, I don't know, I don't think they are too important. I mean, obviously attraction is requisite, but I don't think I'd be able to explain exactly what I find attractive in anyone.

Body shape isn't really an issue. I know some people who imagine very skinny girls as the ideal in beauty, and some who think too skinny is ugly. Once again, I find myself sitting on the fence.

I find some very thin girls very attractive: their fragility perhaps, suggests a femininity not afforded too specifically by their physique. On other girls I would concede that there is a 'too skinny' category, but then again some girls who I find myself most attracted to are just about as skinny as it's possible to be for a healthy person.

On the other hand, the other end of spectrum is a little clearer. Certainly there is a limit at which people become too fat to be attractive, but I wouldn't say my boundary is particularly limiting. I find some slightly larger girls very attractive. Curves are a natural in what men find attractive about women.

Perhaps the point is that any weight within the perceived limits of what can be considered healthy, places them in a very good place to be attractive.

I remember reading a quote from an old book that I agreed with. It was a man commenting on women said something along the lines that it is rare to find a woman who doesn't have something beautiful about her and it is impossible to find one without flaws.

Hair colour and style are of little importance. I happen to think short-hair always looks good on girls. But literally any length can be attractive. I'm not too fond, generally over over-elaborate hairstyles. But I think that's mainly because of what I think it indicates within the personality.

Skin colour is interesting too. I know some guys who tell me that they simply don't find non-white girls attractive. I grew up and live in a primarily white-dominated part of the world, so perhaps that has something to do with it. I must say, however, that not even trying to pretend I'm some sort of super-liberal, all-loving, all-accepting king of political correctness*, I simply do not make the distinction. Attractive is attractive, simple as that.

I have even been accused, by friends, of only finding non-white girls attractive (although I believe it was in jest), which I can categorically state is not the case.

But I think I made a fairly important point a second ago.

I know what I find attractive, but I can't explain to you what it is. Attractive is attractive.

In conclusion, I think that my ideal partner can be summed out in a single word: unobtainable. So, instead I must think of something else to do tomorrow. Maybe I'll get back to writing.

* Which I am, by the way